Family quarrels and their implications

Before the wedding, many believe that their family life would be perfect. Few people imagine the fatigue of everyday life, quarrels and insults. It seems that the conversation until the morning, hugging, kissing and sincere admiration for each other will never end. Of course, no idyll can not last forever, and conflicts are inevitable. Depends on you as they will, as you will be able to survive and will be unable to forgiveness.

How to start a quarrel

The main reason for quarrels can be called jealousy. Distrust spouse generates secret and overt resentment, which often result in the elucidation of relations.

Another fairly common cause of quarrels - routine and life. Someone is tired of days, similar to each other as two drops of water, someone forgot to turn off the water again in the bathroom, the light in the room and once again not made debris. At first, these little things and small things remain, but with time, when is the passion and opened his eyes to many things, all this begins to irritate.

Not a small role and relationships with family and friends. If one spouse too much time away from home with friends or relatives allowed too close to the family affairs and devotes all the secrets, this can result in a nasty quarrel.

Quarreled and then, when love goes into the background. All deficiencies for which the couple had been neglected or regarded them as minor or even cute, suddenly become terrible vices. Reaches the point that in the once-beloved man begins to irritate absolutely everything - voice, manners, good and bad.

Common problems that can not be resolved for a long time, so do not contribute to the strengthening of marriage. Lack of money, forever unfinished repairs, problems with children - these problems are often the causes of these scandals.

How to quarrel

Assuming that the quarrels in family life are inevitable, we can try to learn to quarrel, so that the loss after ascertaining the relationship was minimal.

First, never raised his voice at each other. The louder you yell, the less good are asserted and the greater will be hurt after the anger will pass.

Secondly, the purpose of argument should not be recriminations, and the search for solutions, the management of grain. Therefore try to engage in dialogue, listen to what others say.

Third, do not say anything in their hearts. Very often during a fight people talk to each other are offensive things that they really do not expect. Avoid sudden epithets at each other.

Fourth, take a break. You said one claim by discussing a critical moment, Disperse different rooms at least for a short time. You cool down, and possibly a second attempt to solve the problem, will be successful.

Fifth, talk about what you feel. Instead of insults to the spouse is more efficient to talk about their feelings - the insult and pain. This does not cause aggression and desire to prick harder.

E - Sixth, do not lay up for offense. The longer you remain silent and keep to myself what - the negative emotions, the louder would be a scandal if they still welling out. It is better to sort things out as soon as possible, then the chances are that the conversation would not turn into a quarrel. But it will never start a call on emotions. Wait one would benefit both, but to endure a month - is already too much.

Consequences quarrels

Unfortunately, any arguments are not without consequences for the relationship. The worst thing, if these arguments are in the habit. The couple eventually unlearns talk normal and get used to resolve any conflicts, shouting and accusations.

The more frequent quarrels occur, the faster borderless permissible. Pain threshold is reduced, and the couple are looking for new pain points in each other, because pressure on the old no longer has meaning.

Fades respect for each other, and then there is no place for love. How can we respect and love a man who, with enviable regularity tries to make you as painfully as possible?

It is important to remember that from family quarrels to suffer not only spouses, but children and other relatives. Dirty linen in public is made, as if the spouses have not tried to keep the conflicts in secret. Constant swearing getting nervous parents, and children from the tense situation simply suffer.

Even if the conflict to families and can not save a marriage a long time, happy to call it is very difficult. Grievances over the years only to accumulate, to forgive is becoming increasingly difficult, and eventually both husband and wife realize that their good moments of life was much less.

Is there any sense in such relationships? It possible to restore peace and harmony?

Work on bugs

If your family can hardly be called friendly, but you would like to correct the situation, it is important to not lose heart and try to regain the happiness in the family.

To begin to speak frankly with each other. Find out the goals and desires of each other. If you have a common goal - preservation of the family, the joint efforts move forward.

Try to sincerely forgive each other for all the past grievances and forgive yourself. New life can not be loaded with old problems. In the future, never recalled that before. If you start everything from scratch, the past should be forgotten.

Recall that the most frequent cause of quarrels. Joint efforts to resolve these issues.

Try to be lenient to the spouse and hard on yourself. Do not push and do not succumb to provocations. If both husband and wife learn to remain calm, a quarrel would be much less.

Take care of each other. All the hurtful words that you have allowed earlier, should be excluded. If you continue to offend and insult each other, everything will only get worse.

Be responsible. Depends on you to not only your destiny. But the fate of your children. You do not want your kids will remember only the eternal scandals? Then, in any case not swear at children.

If the row still happened, do not declare one another Boycott for a week or month. You enough for a few hours to cool down. Do not hesitate to approach first in order to make peace. A rule of thumb: do not go to bed, not reconciled.

The main thing in family life, yet not the ability to tolerate, and the ability not to quarrel. Be wise, kind to one another, while many of the clouds pass over your head, do not disturb thunderstorms.